They said the story actually inspired them to have a serious discussion with their wives about their relationship. That was the point. My 10 tips for men were just that, basic suggestions. I mentioned some books about relationships to help people go deeper than I can in these 650 words.

As one writer kept reminding me, I'm a sportswriter, no expert in this field. No defense for that charge, but being married for 29 years does count for something.

I am a husband and spiritual brother to many women. Most of my friends are divorced at least once. More than a few are walking wounded right now thanks to destructive relationships.

It's heartbreaking to see so many hurting people. In so many cases, it's a breakdown in communication that led to marriages being destroyed. Too many men are not good listeners. Too often, our conversations are a means to relaying information, not an attempt to understand what the women in our lives are really thinking and feeling.

Some of us need to work in this area, which is why I wrote last week's story. When you write 10 tips for men to show their love for women -- you run the risk of speaking in generalities, and yes, even looking stupid.

I mentioned part of this e-mail to several women, and they said while I didn't exactly get everything right on the relationship front -- the key premise that men and women are very, very different is true. They said the longer you are in a relationship, the more that becomes obvious.

No argument here. Maybe the best approach is to tell her that we both love and respect her. Guys, ask yourself when was the last time that you told the women in your life that?

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